I'll leave you all with
this...
Folks today lack pride and
shame in what they do that would otherwise be embarrassing to someone
who has pride and shame, an example would be thirst, you see many
dudes display thirsty behavior (especially on social media) and they
don't have pride or shame, another example would be women wearing
clothes that they aren't suppose to wear, but wear it anyway, like a
belly shirt, which was meant for women with flat stomachs, but
throughout the summer I have witness women wearing them and they had
fat stomachs, thirsty dudes have no pride or no shame, and the same
can be said about the women.
An example of having pride and
shame would involve myself, a situation I had just last week, I had
been going to a breakfast dinner for a while and noticed they had a
new waitress, I rarely ate breakfast but when I had a craving for
that type of food like hotcakes, I would go there because it was the
only spot I knew that didn't use margarine (margarine is not even
real butter, it's imitation, yuck) anyway, I went to the dinner so
much and order the same thing damn near all the time that the new
waitress got familiar with my order so she began calling me my order
as a nickname, I don't know about you guys, fellas; but I don't
particularly like it when a woman gives me pet names and she's not on
my team down for me, so I began trying to pull shawty but her boss
was always in her business, I knew her boss was strict because I had
been going to that diner years priors, she was that way with the last
waitress, (her boss was also Chinese they tend to be strict) so I
tried to see if we could exchange information but she was worried
about her boss, which I understood. I would ask her when would be a
good time and she would let me know we could after she got off of
work and what time she got off, so I would go to the diner the next
day ordered food as usual but this time I went in a little late (got
damn elevators), like 10-15 minutes before she got off, here's where
pride and shame come into play, after I get my food it's ten minutes
before she's off and I walk outside and at first I began to wait, but
I didn't feel good, matter fact, it didn't even feel right, I started
to feel like a lame (shame) so I hit up my homie's (because obviously
I wasn't going to catch her) and I wanted to gain their opinions
about the situation, (I don't normally get into situations like this)
my one homie said I could wait in a car but it would be stalker-ish,
which I agreed, just waiting for the short period of time I was out
there made me feel bad so after gaining their insights on the
situation I decided I was going to leave and the next time I order
from the dinner, I'm just going to hand her my number that I already
written down and slide it to her, because of how she acted towards me
in the diner as if she was feeling me, If she called I know she was
for real, if not, then I know she was bullshitting.
Waiting,
even for a short period of time made me feel shame, and pride
wouldn't let me continue to feel foolish. -SSM